RAISING THE FEMALE CHILD
My Dad always sounds it in my ears “Simi, you must be tough. Being girlish and being ladylike is not an excuse for weakness”. This he still says to I and my sisters till this very day.
All the children were raised to do the “masculine” as well as the “feminine” tasks.
My sisters and I started winding a 15KVA generator as soon as we got one. I learnt how to wash a car (internal and external) before the age of 16.
I started learning driving immediately after secondary school. My Dad told me that before he allows me drive out independently, that I must learn to change car tyres.
I remember I was forming ajebutter and my Dad said to me “If you are driving on a lonely highway and you need to change your tyre, what would you do? You will have to get down and change it…. that’s the common sense thing to do. It’s a survival skill for drivers.
He started washing the dishes as soon as he could reach the sink and handle the dishes.
He started cooking simple meals before the age of 10. He started washing his socks and under wears before the age of 7.
He started handling his laundry before the age of 11, when he had to go to boarding school.
In my house, the rule was (still is) that anyone who eats must be able to get involved in the kitchen, when required.
My father tells me I can be president, not first lady. There is nothing wrong with being a first lady, but there’s also nothing wrong with being the husband of the president.
Thus, if you tell your son that he can be president, you should also tell your daughter that she can be president.
The hidden but significant psychology behind this is that telling your daughter that she can be president pushes her to be great,
while telling her that she can be a
pushes her to aspire to marry a great man,
and probably reduces the needed inspiration to aspire to exercise her maximum potentials.
We need not teach our girls to believe that the best they can be is to exist under the success of a man, their husbands.
It is disfavor to humanity to raise your son with the impression that he is better than other females..
Raise your daughters to understand that they are not inferior to males.
Teach your sons to be as domesticated as your daughters,
and push your daughters to
attain financial independence
as much as you push your sons.
This way, we will raise a less entitled:
and more responsible generation,
equipped with all vital survival skills,
and with less handicaps.
Charity begins at home, not in the offices or work places.
Go tell it to the world, over the hills and everywhere
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